Each time I meet someone I’ve known through the web, I wonder how our first interaction will be. I try to imagine sitting in the restaurant and wonder what sort of conversation we will have. Will it be awkward or will it be as if we’d been buddies all along?
Will I even recognize the face?
I wrote about meeting web people before. Rony and Daphna definitely were like longtime friends. Within minutes, we were conversing as if we hang out regularly. Since they were the first official people we met from the online world (well, not entirely true, but at least the first official people we met from the weblogging world), I wasn’t sure if they were the norm or the exception.
A few months and at least ten more meetings with different people showed me that as special as the Tako couple are, and they are special, there is some sort of ease when meeting people that seem to share an online world with you. I don’t know if it comes from the comfort that’s raised from frank email or AIM conversations, or it’s that people who choose to express themselves on the net are a certain kind of people who blend easily when face to face.
Yesterday, I met four more such people. Two who live a few blocks from my house, one who can be considered a neighbor and another who came from miles and miles away. Four different people with four different personalities, four different backgrounds, four different styles, four different priorities. Five, if you include me.
Walking down the street to the diner, I recognized them without a problem. How many other people carry identical cameras? A two-hour lunch went from topic to topic without an awkward pause. The weird thing about meeting these people is that they may physically be strangers, as we’d never previously met face to face, but we knew much about each other.
So the awkwardness of talking to a stranger doesn’t enter the picture. And yet, you haven’t really met this person ever before, so it’s still full of the excitement of meeting a new person. Talking about different interests, listening and agreeing and laughing.
It’s not like hanging out with an old friend, nor is it like being introduced to a brand new person. It’s an amalgamation that’s unique to the world it emerges from. It’s fun, it’s interesting, it’s unusual, it’s memorable.
And it’s always worthwhile.
Previously? A Moment.
The first time I met a net buddy in real life I was so nervous! It felt like being 16 and going on a first date. I’ve done it a couple of times since and it’s less nerve-wracking now. I have met anyone yet that my instinct to like was wrong about.
There was no nervousness. No real anticipation. It was like being with old friends. Again.
The resplendent magic of chemistry! But it does make you wish your new fast friends lived, at least, in the same area code.
About 30 of us gathered in central New Jersey this summer. Nothing unusual about that, except that I showed up, and I live out in deepest Oklahoma, so it was a major undertaking for me. And I wouldn’t have missed it for the world.