May 2016 – Choosing Means – 16

Today’s card says: The only way people know what you stand for is by the choices you make. If you say one thing but choose to do another, which one do you really stand for? Have your actions in line with who you are.

Ah what we believe in and what we do. It’s so easy to say things but so very hard to actually do them. At least certain things.

I find that for many of us there are life’s willpower-related convictions, do I eat this, do i exercise, do i read more, sleep more, etc. These are just to make us better versions of ourselves and people we strive to be but they are choices you make all day long and require your willpower along the way.

Then there are those fundamental things that we “say” or “believe in” but don’t do. This is what this card is here to remind me. That what I say or think in my head is irrelevant and what matters is what I do. Out here in the world, the actions make the biggest difference. How I choose to behave, what I choose to do, who I choose to be ends up being who I am.

There are certain areas of my life where I really feel like I am very aligned with my values and my actions reflect my values. I choose what I say I care about. But then there are just as many where it’s just not the case. Sometimes it’s because I feel an unnecessary sense of urgency in some less-important areas. Other times it’s due to laziness or because choosing to do the right/better thing is really hard and requires energy I don’t have.

These are the things I want to remember. That if it takes energy, I need to save my energy for the things I value and not for whatever happens first. I need to remember that urgent and important are not the same thing. And I need to make my choices accordingly.

Like most things, if I don’t actively make the choice myself, it ends up being made for me. And not always in the direction I might have chosen. So I need to remember to choose.

Choosing Means is a Monthly Project for May 2016. You can read more about my projects for 2016 here.

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