Today started with a 6am meeting. So I woke up early, prepped some of the lunch and breakfast. Then I had a few minutes and read my favorite email of the day. I like to start my days with theSkimm.
Then it was time for team meeting.
Today’s meeting had a demo which was fun.
Little boy was awake and dressed of course. He finished off making lunches and then woke David up.
While I went from meeting to meeting, the boys ate their food and got ready for school.
I had a total of 4 minutes between meetings to get them to the shuttle. David is getting so tall.
A quick shot on the way again.
After many more meetings, I went out for lunch again to my friend Allison’s house for our book club. It’s hosted once every 6 weeks or so and I always try to make time for it. It was super hot today so I dressed light because I knew I was going from her house to the school.
After our lunch, I went to the kids’ school to meet with the principal because I am the head of the parent association this year and I have had recurring meetings with the head of the school all year long. Today was our last one. After him, I met with another Administration member to help work some details out for next year (coordinating volunteering across the school.) And then it was almost time for school to get out so I just grabbed the kids a bit early so we could rush home for my meeting.
I had a meeting for an hour when we got home so the kids showered and did their homework during that time. Then we had plans to go get ice cream but I was tired and not in the mood to walk in the heat so we came up with a different plan instead. We ordered pizza hut which said it would take 35 minutes to get here and then left the house to go to the corner store.
We got ice cream, pears and carrots and walked back home. With 10 minutes left to spare.
Nathaniel did another round with the garden because it’s been so hot and the plants are craving water.
The pizza came right on time so we dug in. After a slice each we were totally full. The kids ate cheese and I had pepperoni and pineapple.
There was some room left for ice cream of course.
Then it was time to get into PJs and read a bit while I type this. As soon as I am done we will do a bit more math and then he’s off to bed.
David’s already in his room, and Jake is on his way back home (so thankful!) Once the kids are down, I need to write interview feedback, go through my emails, do a bit more work and then it’s sleep time for me, too, since it’s another 5am day tomorrow.
I needed to make sure I was sleeping before 10:30 last night so I decided it was ok if this came a day late 🙂
Today was a super-early start because I had a 5:30am meeting.
Nathaniel slept with me again but when I woke up, he was clearly still too tired so I asked him if he wanted to go back to sleep and that I’d wake him up at 6 when my first meeting was over. He said ok. I went downstairs and did a quick lunch prep to make it easier on Nathaniel, also prepped the oatmeal and then sat down with my tea.
I spend most of my days like this. On videoconference with my team mates. Since I work with a team in Zurich, a lot of my meetings and work is early AM. Right before this meeting, I snuck upstairs and woke up Nathaniel as I’d promised.
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While I was in my meeting, Nathaniel prepared lunch for both him and David. He’s been doing this all year. He’s a total gem.
We took one more shot on the way to the shuttle. David didn’t forget his glasses this time.
Since I was meeting my mentee for lunch, I decided to eat a small breakfast. Small yogurt with a few berries.
Then it was time to get organized again and figure out what I had to do today.
On the way to the cafe where I met my mentee (she’s out on maternity but we still try to check in with each other) I listened to my book. I’m currently reading Imagine Me Gone by Adam Hasslett and listening to Fellside by M.R. Carey. I love listening to my books when I am in the car.
I had a lovely lunch with my mentee and then drove back home for more work and then it was time to pick up the boys. Nathaniel gets out earlier and he’s always waiting for me in this corner.
We drove straight home today and I asked David if I could get a shot, this is what he let me have. He wasn’t super thrilled.
Nathaniel watered all the plants in the front and backyard while David showered.
David did this math homework while Nathaniel showered and I prepared their dinner. We are super early today because David has a music class and then we had plans to leave right after.
While they ate I turned on CNN to see how the primaries had gone. Nothing super surprising.
Nathaniel has to read 20 minutes a day for his homework. He loves reading series and is currently reading Ellery Jake series.
David started tuning his guitar in preparation for his teacher. He usually plays the acoustic guitar but he’s preparing for a Talent Show in two weeks so he’s practicing the electric guitar these weeks. 
His teacher is here and they are practicing Superheroes by The Script.
While he is with his teacher, Nathaniel and I continue our math class from yesterday. Today’s topic is Order of Operations.
As soon as the teacher leaves, we drive to our local bookstore. Today’s the release day for my friend Evelyn’s book and several of us volunteered to help her setup.
Here she is with her awesome daughter Reese!
A wonderful pastry chef did the amazing food and she made Russian desserts (the book takes place in Imperial Russia) and look at these swans!!
More Russian desserts 🙂
Here’s Angela who organizes the events at Kepler’s bookstore and Evelyn’s good friend.
And then Evelyn and Sabaa whose book was also awesome.
I had preordered my copy so David started reading it right away.
Sabaa then interviewed Evelyn and the crowd had a lot of questions and it was a really lovely evening. I am so incredibly happy for my friend. Her book is really really awesome. Our first grade teacher and 7 of Reese’s classmates were also there to support them and it was really nice. By the time we were done it was almost 9 and well past bedtime so we drove back home and Nathaniel went right to bed. David decided he wanted to as well. I spent a few hours doing some more work and then headed to bed myself.
And here we are. Day 2.
I read Maybe in Another Life because I read about it somewhere and it sounded lovely.
And it was.
I love the Sliding Doors movie and I loved the idea behind this book.
And it did not disappoint. I read it in one sitting, I cried. I loved it.
It’s light reading, it’s sweet, it’s relatively predictable (though not 100% which was a nice surprise for me.)
Lovely summer read.
 Today’s card says: Sometimes you get to choose short term discomfort for long term gifts. some things take time and perseverance to pay off and sometimes it’s ok to choose just to rest.Â
I think one of the saddest things about being in today’s world (and I think there are a lot of great things about being in this time and age) is that most of us don’t seem to have patience anymore. We want things to happen now. I am one of those people who have the ability to focus for long periods of time. I can sit and read a book from start to finish without getting up. I can work at my desk for hours on end.
Or I used to be able to.
Now I find that I have no patience. It’s not that I am distracted (though I am that too sometimes), it’s just that I have no patience. I don’t have the perseverance to stick with something, especially if I have a sense that it will take a long time to accomplish my goal. I don’t even have the patience for a 4-minute video if I don’t think it will be interesting. Or to read articles online, etc.
Let alone for the big things like exercise or learning a new skill. I just feel tired and I feel like sometimes it just all feels like too much. And I want to remind myself that sometimes it’s ok to choose the discomfort. The hard work that comes with choosing to grow, change, learn. And sometimes it’s ok to just take a time out. To rest. To relax. To just stop trying so much.
I try hard often and in many areas of my life. So, for me, the choice sometimes is about letting myself off the hook. Telling myself it’s ok to take a break and be ok with not constantly making it hard for myself.
But I also want to choose more patience. slowing down. choosing things that I know are worth the work and maybe changing the nature of the work so it doesn’t feel like work so much. Which, maybe, is a compromise.
Or maybe it’s another choice point.
Choosing Means is a Monthly Project for May 2016. You can read more about my projects for 2016Â here.
My sweet friend Evelyn quit her job six years ago to be come a writer. She was lawyer before but decided she wanted to write. And this year she published her first novel. It’s a Young Adult novel called The Crown’s Game. The book became a huge hit and debuted at #3 in the New York Times best seller list.
Doesn’t she make it look easy?
I know that she spent a lot of those six years writing, rewriting, throwing away, beginning again, doing a lot of putting herself out there, etc. But it’s still quite an amazing story to be able to set such an audacious goal and then to meet it. (Exceed it even!)
I am so proud of her and so very happy for her.
When her book launched, she had a big event at our local book store. Part of the event was the amazing food. She had a friend make Russian pastries that were in the theme of the book. These swans were part of the story. The entire event was magnificent and a wonderful celebration to her amazing accomplishment. I was so very grateful to get to be there to celebrate with her.
She is in the process of revising the sequel and I cannot wait to read it!
Stories from 2016 is a year-long project for 2016. You can read more about my projects for 2016 here.
 Today’s card says: Â You get to choose your past. What you choose to remember, what you choose to bring to the present moment, what you choose to still hang on to is all up to you.
When I was in 6th grade (or maybe 5th grade), we were assigned Jonathan Livingston Seagull as summer reading. I remember immediately falling in love with the story and going through a Richard Bach period where I read all of his books. Nothing measured up to JLS for me but I spent quite some time on Illusions. And there’s a quote in that book that says:
“You are led through your lifetime by the inner learning creature, the playful spiritual being that is your real self. Don’t turn away from possible futures before you’re certain you don’t have anything to learn from them. You’re always free to change your mind and choose a different future, or a different past.” -Illusions by Richard Bach
I didn’t understand this quote at all at the time. How were you free to choose a different past? But then, over the years, I’ve made my own interpretation of this and wrote about it here and here. (sidebar: How is it possible that I wrote that first post fifteen years ago!) And I find it to be a powerful reminder each time I see myself falling back into my old patterns.
Choosing the word choose was all about reminding myself that I hold the power to choose not only what to do, how to respond but also what to hang on to and what to let go of. What I make things mean. What I bring into this present moment. What I take away from this moment. What I move into the future with me. It’s about choosing what I learn and what I forgive and what I embrace. It’s about all of it. Remembering that I hold the power of how I live my life.
How I choose to interpret it.
Choosing Means is a Monthly Project for May 2016. You can read more about my projects for 2016Â here.
As I watched Ali post her Week in the Life posts, I realized how much I enjoyed looking at them and decided I wanted to go ahead and try for this week. I have no idea whether I will be able to sustain it all week but I will try. I don’t think I’ve done one of these since 2014 and my life is quite different since then.
This morning was exceptional for several reasons. I usually wake up around 4:45 to 5:15 because I have meetings with my team in Zurich but today was a national holiday there so I got to sleep in until 6:30, which would have been a miracle except I woke up at 5am and tossed and turned. I didn’t sleep well all night because I was sad about the small car accident I got into yesterday (i am ok!) It was also an unusual morning because Jake’s back home in Boston for his uncle’s memorial. So it’s just me and the kids until later this week.
Since I didn’t have any meetings until 9am, I did what I’ve been doing a lot lately which is to turn on CNN. I’ve been obsessed with this election cycle and can’t seem to stop watching CNN. It’s to the point of an unhealthy obsession and I am sad to see that most often the news is not really fit for my kids. (Like this morning.) So I turn it off and Skype with my mom. (and then my sister too!)
Nathaniel slept with me last night and it was so nice to wake up and give him a big hug. He then got dressed and came down to make lunches for both kids.
The kids ate their oatmeal and brushed their teeth and it was time to leave for the shuttle. Since I usually have back to back meetings in the morning, they usually take the shuttle which is only 4 minutes away and allows me to leave one meeting a bit early and be a bit late to the next one.
We took a selfie on the way to the shuttle.
And there they go. On Mondays and Wednesdays, they have a good friend on the shuttle so they like riding it.
Since it was a very rare day of not having a meeting right after, I drove to Starbucks and got a Latte and the spinach foldover (which wasn’t great today) and got a moment to enjoy breakfast (with more CNN.)
I organized my June project and put a new banner on my site for it. And started thinking about what I might want to do for July. It helps to think ahead in the summer months.
This is my calendar for the week. It’s not pretty. I have a lot of meetings. Especially those back to back 30 minute ones in the early mornings are not my favorite. I was gone for a work offsite Wednesday to Friday last week so I am really behind in email and I just don’t see myself catching up super soon.
Here’s how I spend most of my day. Reading email, writing email, or in meetings.
I often work with both my computers in front of me. Meeting in one, doing work on the other.
I was waiting for one of my workmates to show up to a meeting and randomly had a need to put this temporary tattoo on me. Love these little gems.
Meeting gets canceled last minute so I take the opportunity to plan out my week and write down my todos.
More work, more meetings, and then time for lunch. I had a coaching client today over lunch so actual lunch is while I work. Crackers + goat cheese + tomato = happy place. I spend a lot of time on a presentation I will give later this week on Mentoring.
Another hour of work and then it’s time to interview a candidate. I take notes furiously as he speaks. So I can remember my feedback when I put it into the system.
As soon as the interview is done, I jump in the car because it’s time to pickup the kids. Yep, it’s so very sunny outside. Pretty much every day.
Nathaniel’s class is already out.
He’s got an art project and a card from his reading buddy.
David gets out about 15 minutes after Nathaniel so I sit at the playground for that time and chat with the other moms while Nathaniel plays. This is Adriana who is also often there.
The kids are hot and ask me if we can please get some ice cream. I tell them we can’t go to where they usually like to go because I am still shaken up from yesterday’s car thing and would like to park somewhere easy. So we decide to stay local. When I see this mirror, I can’t resist taking a shot.
The chocolaty ones are Nathaniel’s and mine, the crazy colorful one is David’s. I threw mine away because it had a lot of nuts. Way way too many nuts.
We grab a few bagels and finally make it home. David jumps into the shower and the boys get ready for swimming which is in an hour. They eat the bagels we got and Nathaniel and I spend this time doing a Udacity course that David and I did years ago: Intro to Algebra Review. The beginning is easy and he flies through the lessons. (David and I are now doing the College Algebra one, the beginning of that one is easy too, we’ll see how hard it gets.)
The kids eat dinner and then it’s time for swimming class.
After we come home from swimming, the boys do a quick video chat with Jake and his brother’s family and his parents. Then, the boys shower and David and I do some math and then Nathaniel and I do a tiny bit more so he can finish the first section. David does his homework. Then it’s time for the little boy to go to bed. He’s going to sleep with me again tonight so David and I tuck him in.
I then come down and turn CNN on again. David’s in his room, reading. I send a few more emails, work some more on my presentation, type up the “choosing means” post for tomorrow, and I will go to bed as soon as I finish typing this up. Tomorrow’s first meeting is 5:30am so I need all the sleep I can get.
 Today’s card says:Â You get to choose who you are at every moment of every day. nothing is set in stone, including you. who you are can change moment to moment, you get to choose.
I wrote this down because I think about this a lot. Often enough that I have created a few cards this month that say the same thing. Because I can’t remember this one often enough. The biggest reason I picked the word choose this year was to remind myself that I get to choose who I am at any moment. How I can respond and not react to events. Part of this is remembering that who I’ve been does not have to be who I will be in this moment. Or who I will be tomorrow.
As we grow up, we form parts of our identity. Good at math, not good at sports, geeky, introverted, shy, loud, bad at writing, good at music, etc. etc. And I made mine just like most others I know. I then spend my days perpetuating this identity, especially in my head. When opportunities come up to do things, it goes through the filter of how I see myself. I am not good at social events, so when I am invited I choose not to go. I love reading so when it has to do with books, I go. Hiking/running – no. Quiet conversations – yes.
But the thing is, just because it’s been true, it doesn’t have to continue to be true. As much as I believe in stepping into who we are wholly (and i really really do) I also believe in choosing to be anything you want to be. If i want to be a runner, I just have to get up and do it. Yes, I will suck at first, but I’ve had years of practice not being a runner so I have to give this new identity some time to grow. I can be a runner. Someone who’s social. Someone who can dance, drive on the freeway, play a musical instrument, or whatever else I choose to be.
The important part is the choice part. I don’t have to do any of these things for other people or for society. I don’t have to do them at all.
But I can.
The choice is up to me.
Choosing Means is a Monthly Project for May 2016. You can read more about my projects for 2016Â here.
 Today’s card says: Choosing the life you have is so much easier than fighting everything. Choose to see the amazing gifts that already exist in your life. Choose to see what’s there, not what’s missing. There’s so much there.
This is something I should frame and put up in my room, my desk, my ipad, everywhere, so I can see it again and again because I can’t remind myself this truth enough times. My life is so blessed, so lucky, so amazing. There are times I sit in this coffee shop by my house and look around and I can’t believe this little girl from Turkey is now sitting at this cafe, in the sunshine, with this amazing husband, these beautiful children, wonderful friends, incredible family, challenging/interesting/rewarding job. How is it possible that I got this lucky?
And of course there are many moments when I am sad. I wish for parts of my life to be different. For myself to be different. I wish for different things on some days. I feel bad not doing more, not being more. I feel guilty, I feel less than, I feel frustrated, lost, angry, hopeless and all the other feelings.
There are days when I wish some things were different and days when I wish everything was different. But then I know that my life is what I make it. What I made it. I worked so very hard to build this life that I have. This life that is such a gift to me.
This life that feels like a miracle most days.
And I remember that it’s so much easier to choose what is. This is my life. It’s not perfect. I’m not perfect. But perfection is not the goal for me. It’s never been the goal for me. What matters is that I get up each day and I try my hardest. I show up and do what I can. And part of that is choosing what is here. Seeing it. Being grateful for it.
Because it’s pretty darn magical.
Choosing Means is a Monthly Project for May 2016. You can read more about my projects for 2016Â here.
 Today’s card says: Just because things aren’t going as planned doesn’t mean you don’t get to choose anymore. At any moment you can choose to self-correct and choose a different path.
This is something I don’t remember often enough. I often think of that quote about man making plans, and God laughing. As a planner, I like to always think that I am in control of my life. That if I plan things, worry about things, be specific about my choices, etc. things will work out as I anticipated. But of course they do sometimes and they don’t other times and it has a lot less to do with me than it might seem. Either way, when things don’t go as planned, it’s so easy to just give up and assume that nothing is now up to you.
This is a reminder to me that I always have moments of choice. Even when one thing happens outside of expectations, I still get to recalibrate in this new moment and make more choices. At a minimum, I can choose to accept this moment. I can choose to be present with it. This is what’s here now and I can step into it.
But I can also still change things. I can decide what I want next and how to get there. I can say “ok this happened, it wasn’t what I wanted but here we are. Now I will do this other thing.” or what would it take me to be ok with this? what would i like to do/feel next. I get to choose how I feel about things. I get to choose what things mean. I get to choose so many things at every moment. When things don’t go just right, it’s easy to forget that I have these moments of choice. But they are always there and always with me.
It’s never too late for it to be what it might have been. It’s never too late to start. It’s never too late to stop. To give in, to keep going, to give up, to push forward, to apologize, to accept an apology, to change course, to pick a new life. To create new values. To find friends, love, kindness, etc. It’s just never too late for anything. And I want to remember that. I want to remember that I have millions of moments of choice all day long.
I am so grateful for those moments.
Choosing Means is a Monthly Project for May 2016. You can read more about my projects for 2016Â here.
Today’s card says: Sometimes choosing not to hurt others ends up meaning you have to choose to hurt yourself. At times, that’s okay but it’s not ok to choose to put others first every single time.
I feel like as women we are more often brought up with the expectation to sacrifice ourselves for others. As mothers, even more so. And I personally think there’s nothing wrong with choosing others over me, many many times. I often choose to do things for my kids because seeing my kids makes me happy. So it’s also sort of choosing for myself. Same goes for my husband, parents, friends, etc.
But as I get older, I realize that it’s easy to go overboard with this. To always choose others. To always sacrifice. For work, for kids, for husband. And there are dangers with that, resentment, expectation of reciprocation, losing sense of self. I think all of these are possible outcomes I’ve seen over the years.
I’ve learned to always ask myself whether I am choosing to do this for them or for me and if I can’t find a way to bring it back to me, I try not to do it. I drive my kids to school because I love having conversations in the car on our way. It’s good for them, good for me. I help my husband because his business doing well makes him happier and when he’s happy, I am really happy. I work harder some times because having the tasks done allows me to relax and be more present. I always try to be aware of why I am making the choice I make. Is this something I value? Something that is for a good cause? And if I always make it about me, then there’s no other person to resent. I don’t think “ugh, i sacrificed myself for him and then he wasn’t even thankful.” This way I am accountable to myself, I am aware of my choices and I own how I feel about it.
But sometimes I still need to remember that I need to choose more time just for myself, just to restore and rebuild my own soul/body/heart. So I need to remember that I am also one of those people I need to sacrifice for. One of those people I need to choose not to hurt.
Choosing Means is a Monthly Project for May 2016. You can read more about my projects for 2016Â here.
I’ve had so many of these book reviews on draft for months now, so I decided it’s better to write just a few words and post them than to keep sitting on them. Excuse my brevity.
I read The Name of the Star because of a random whim. I read about it somewhere and then jumped in.
It was a super fast read. I think I might have read it in one sitting. I loved it but not enough to feel compelled to read the next two. Maybe one day. If this is your cup of tea, it’s not bad. Recommended.
If not, there are many others to choose from in the world of books.
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