Living Intentionally 2017 – 21

Weekly Intention: I have travel and an all-day class this week. I have to go to work twice, to Nathaniel’s school once and to David’s school once. I have a social event. And then a four-day weekend with my in-laws in town. It’s going to be crazy and tiring. So here’s what I want: I want to be patient, slow, and present. I want to be kind to the kids, to Jake, to my in-laws. I want to remember the incredibleness of my life. 

Things I want to get Done: Here’s the list for his week. Not a really long one this week. I’ll have to brainstorm some more.

  • Work: more documentation: dashboards, data.
  • Work: spend time with the new team in Seattle
  • Work: make the trip to Seattle count
  • Vacation: write 2-3 ideas for the weekend.
  • Personal: Exercise twice this week.
  • Personal: come up with ideas on August art.
  • Personal: do more of glow homework.
  • Personal: A vegetable+protein with every meal.
  • Family: Family photos.
  • Family: Spend time with Jake’s parents.

This month’s intention is: May: Help others Shine: Ok now it’s others’ turn. It’s time to be the mirror to their light so it can reflect off of you. Think of ways big and small that you can help people in your life see their own light this month. Smile. Show them how amazing they are. Thank them.  Ok one more week passed and I still have made NO notes! what does this mean about me?

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: I would like to see if I can connect a bit in Seattle.
  • Two: Open: Open to stepping up a bit more. Seeing what’s possible.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: More journaling. A bit of sketching. Resting.

I am looking forward to: Seattle, my class, David coming back, 4-day weekend.

This week’s challenges: a really early flight to Seattle and a really late return. I will need a lot of sleep. A week without David means I will miss him so!

Top Goals:

  • Work: more documentation. connecting.
  • Personal: some more work on Glow. Eating clean.
  • Family: once all 4 of us are under the same roof again, lots of resting and laughing together.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: remembering that i’ve got this. i can do this.

This week, I will say yes to: assuming the best.

This week, I will say no to: being anxious.

I am worried that:  something will happen to david or that he won’t have a good time. My flight to SEA will be delayed. My trip will be unsuccessful. I will annoy someone important. I will be so incredibly tired. I will eat poorly. I won’t do more of Glow. I won’t like the class.

This week, I want to remember: that all i have to do is show up.

Living Intentionally 2017 – 20

Weekly Intention: Oh man, interesting week this week. I have two relaxing work day where I might be able to actually get work done, two days of summits where I am going to miss a lot of meetings but hopefully connect with my teammates more. My good friend Evelyn’s book is launching. And then David leaves for a week to D.C and Nathaniel and Jake go camping for the weekend. And then I will be taking off super-early Monday to go to Seattle. So quite a lot going on. Physically long days Monday and Wednesday. Emotionally long weekend. My intention this week is to spend a bit of extra time with David since he will be gone all week next week. A bit more time with Jake since he was gone last week. And then make a decision about the weekend and whether I want to go camping with them or not.  Monday is full but not super full so my hope is that I can spend a lot of tomorrow working really hard both on my todos and on writing docs for work. If I can get that done, I will be on a positive cycle. 

Things I want to get Done: Here’s the list for his week.

  • Work: more documentation: metrics, roadmaps, modeling
  • Work: get closer to three team members i don’t know well.
  • Vacation: plan out next weekend a bit.
  • Summer: book rowing for david. 
  • Summer: find a camp for Nathaniel.
  • Personal: Exercise twice this week.
  • Personal: 15 minutes of art 4 times.
  • Personal: Do OLW May.
  • Personal: A vegetable with every meal.
  • Family: Family photos on Friday.
  • Family: Make a decision on hiking this weekend.
  • Family: Make eye doctor appointments. 

This month’s intention is: May: Help others Shine: Ok now it’s others’ turn. It’s time to be the mirror to their light so it can reflect off of you. Think of ways big and small that you can help people in your life see their own light this month. Smile. Show them how amazing they are. Thank them.  I am ashamed i have to write this again but I *still* forgot to write notes!!?! Can I do it this week, you think?

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: I would like to befriend some people at work. 
  • Two: Open: Open to both going or staying this weekend.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: Exercise, art, journaling this week.

I am looking forward to: our two-day summit.

This week’s challenges: long workdays are no fun. But the hardest challenge will be letting David go of course.

Top Goals:

  • Work: more documentation. connecting.
  • Personal: a tiny bit of journaling this week?!
  • Family: some just 4 of us time. some david and me time. 

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: remembering that life is amazing just as is. i can relax.

This week, I will say yes to: slowing down. being present.

This week, I will say no to: worrying too much.

I am worried that:  something will happen to david. or nathaniel+jake. I want everyone to have fun where they’re going and to really enjoy the experiences they will be having. I want all of it to go well. I am worried i will eat poorly, not exercise, not journal, not do art. something has to change for everything to change.

This week, I want to remember: to kiss and hug and love my people!

Living Intentionally 2017 – 19

Weekly Intention: This week has a few trips to work, a few coaching clients, a few social engagements and some work for the kids’ school. This week, Jake will be traveling. Life is never the same when Jake’s not here. I have a long Monday and Wednesday again. I am hoping things will be a small amount quieter so I can recover more quickly from the longer days. My intention this week is to take it slower than last week. To exercise every day since I will be home for several days. To go hiking even when Jake’s not here. To do math with the boys.  To do art. Let’s see how far I can get. 

Things I want to get Done: Here’s the list for his week.

  • Work: a lot of documentation: metrics, roadmaps, modeling
  • Work: a few meetings to understand next steps.
  • Work: book some more meetings for next week.
  • Work: Book Seattle, now or never.
  • Vacation: a few small plans for memorial day
  • Summer: Book camps for David (and third for Nathaniel).
  • Personal: Come up with exercise plan.
  • Personal: Try out 15 mins of art.
  • Personal: Do OLW May.
  • Family: Pickup N’s book.
  • Family: Take photos of me and the boyes.
  • Family: Go hiking.
  • Family: Make eye doctor appointments. 

This month’s intention is: May: Help others Shine: Ok now it’s others’ turn. It’s time to be the mirror to their light so it can reflect off of you. Think of ways big and small that you can help people in your life see their own light this month. Smile. Show them how amazing they are. Thank them.  So I totally didn’t remember that I’d written that I wanted to make little notes for Nathaniel’s lunch every day. It will have to be the plan for this week!

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: A few more bold meetings at work. Let’s see what happens.
  • Two: Open: Open to new friends this week. Let’s see.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: Here’s to some exercise this week.

I am looking forward to: getting some of this documentation down.

This week’s challenges: Monday and Wednesday will be long and challenging at work. Friday will be challenging personally with a school event, two social events, two pickups and swim class. ugh. And of course the fact that Jake will be gone is the biggest challenge.

Top Goals:

  • Work: more documentation. making plans.
  • Personal: apparently I couldn’t do exercise last week. can i balance work/notwork a bit better this week?
  • Family: kindness this week and patience as I am the only parent here.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: remembering what matters most. remembering who I am. remembering to honor my values.

This week, I will say yes to: writing it down. listening. being open.

This week, I will say no to: focusing on my thoughts. 

I am worried that:  i won’t write enough down. i will continue to be exhausted. i won’t exercise. there will be no solutions. i won’t be done with camps. i will do no art. i am mostly worried about inertia and doing nothing.

This week, I want to remember: that it’s not about how many things i got done. it’s about how much love i gave. that people remember how you make them feel!

Living Intentionally 2017 – 18

Weekly Intention: Happy May!! Rabbit Rabbit! Well, no meetings week is over so the nights will be back to being full this week. And the days appear to be just as full. I have plans to go to work four days this week. That’s relatively uncommon for me but here we are. My intention for this week is to get through the days mindfully, slowly, and intentionally.

My other intention for this week is to figure out how I want to use my time like i mentioned yesterday. So here are some preliminary thoughts:

  • Time at work: I’d like to take the time to think about and document my learnings from the last year and then recommend and put in place best practices from what I learned. I’d also like to meet with others and listen to their learnings so I can implement them with my teams. 
  • Time at the kids’ school: I’ve learned that committing time to the kids’ school is meaningful to me. It’s a natural and meaningful way for me to meet other parents and faculty.  It shows me a side of the school I don’t otherwise get to see and it allows me to feel more connected to the school on a personal level (and not just through my kids.) I like it and plan to continue doing it. My two areas of passion and reading and math so I’ve already committed to shadowing the middle school STEM Fair lead in order to take over from her the following year. I’ve also committed to organizing snacks for MathCounts (though this is not usually my favorite type of volunteering, I am going to give it a try for a year.) and possibly co-running the Math Circles next year. I enjoyed doing Lit Club this year but it was very time consuming so I will only continue that next year if I can do it for Middle School instead. I will also volunteer at the Book Fair. This list makes me happy so far. I am a tiny bit worried about the snacks but I am sure we’ll be okay. Other than these, my plan to go to school once every two weeks for an event/talk/etc. I know this looks like a lot but I think it’s about the right amount for me, especially considering both my kids will be at the same school next year. I will take a step back and assess as I go, of course.
  •  Time with Jake: One thing that slips through the crack more often than anything else is time with Jake. Especially since we support each other so much as we take care of the kids and manage our work schedules. We don’t spend as much time together (just the two of us) as I’d like. We chat throughout the day often and send each other loving emails/notes but I still want more time together. I have two goals here, one is to carve out an hour during the week when the kids are in school so we can have breakfast/coffee together. And the other is to pick an evening where we can go on date nights every other week. If we do those two, I will feel considerable progress here.
  • Time with the kids: Time with the kids is twofold for me: fun time and teaching time. I want to spend time with each kid, working on math together. For this, I want one hour a week per kid. And then I want to have fun time with each kid individually for an hour a week, too, doing whatever they want to do. We spend a lot of time during the week doing homework, talking about school/life but these are not necessarily consistent so this is what I want to make sure we do consistently.
  • Time as a family: Here, too, I plan to keep it simple. Most of our family time is chores and/or eating and I’d like to change that. Three wishes here: 1. go hiking weekly – saturday mornings, 2. have a family night – every other week when we aren’t going on a date, 3. go back to taking our family photos weekly (consistency plays a big game, if it’s once a month, it’s much less likely to happen than if it’s every week.)
  • Time with friends: This one is a bit tricky. Friend-time directly competes with alone-time and much much much of the time alone-time wins. So I need to always remind myself that friend-time is worth it. I’d like to commit to friend time every other week. Either book club, or 1-1 time or some other social event. That’s a pretty good amount for me. Maybe I can even say something a bit more like 2 old friends and one new one each month?
  • Personal Time: And finally, me-time. Right now, I spend a lot of my me-time reading and doing puzzles and resting. I don’t want to remove any of those but I do want to reduce them and add more variety. I’d like to go back to adding exercise into my days, even if it means I sleep a tiny bit less. I think it will be a worthwhile compromise. I want to commit to 30 minutes of learning something new each week and 30 minutes to watch TED talks. 

So there we are. No time better than now, so I hope to start implementing all of these starting this week. (Except for next year’s school volunteer commitments of course.) Let’s see how it goes.

Things I want to get Done: I have a long list this week.

  • Work: Newsletters. no, really.
  • Work: give my presentation.
  • Work: document tracking.
  • Work: 2 metrics documentation+work.
  • Work: Start with YAG.
  • Vacation: Figure out Memorial Day Weekend.
  • Vacation: Book Sydney hotels (work/personal.)
  • Vacation: Book flights to Cairns. 
  • Summer: Book camps for David (and third for Nathaniel).
  • Personal: Come up with exercise plan.
  • Personal: Try out 15 mins of art.
  • Personal: Buy sneakers.
  • Family: Pickup books back from teachers.
  • Family: Take family photos.
  • Family: Go hiking.
  • Love: book date night.

This month’s intention is: May: Help others Shine: Ok now it’s others’ turn. It’s time to be the mirror to their light so it can reflect off of you. Think of ways big and small that you can help people in your life see their own light this month. Smile. Show them how amazing they are. Thank them.  Oh, I love this one. This week’s intention is to make little notes for Nathaniel’s lunch every day. He always asks for them and I never make them. Let’s see if I can pull it off!

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: Bold plans at work. Bold plans to help out at the kid’s school. Bold plans all around this week!
  • Two: Open: Open to being flexible this week. If things don’t work out, I will come up with new plan. Adjust as needed.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: I’ve been doing a better job eating more nourishing food. I’d like to take the time to ensure it continues. 

I am looking forward to: most of this week for some reason. getting through my todo list above! I can do this!

This week’s challenges: On the upside, no one day looks to be super-stressful this week. On the down side, a lot of trips to work, a trip to David’s school and a lot lot lot of meetings. I have some solid work (and todo list items) I’d like to get done this week and I am not sure when I can do that in between all the crazy meetings but I’d like to see if I can pull it off.

Top Goals:

  • Work: let the documentation begin!
  • Personal: exercise, can i do it?
  • Family: looking forward to setting a few routines here.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: starting some of the practices i outlined above.

This week, I will say yes to: getting stuff done!

This week, I will say no to: inertia. things are getting done this week!

I am worried that:  i won’t get work done. i will do nothing for sydney. i won’t book the camps or come up with a plan for when jake’s parents are visiting. I won’t exercise. None of the things I outlined above will actually happen. I will get tired and give up. 

This week, I want to remember: that life is a marathon and not a sprint. it’s going to be okay.

Living Intentionally 2017 – 17

Weekly Intention: This is a week of family. Nathaniel’s birthday is today and we will celebrate both in the morning and the evening. Tuesday is a bit of a crazy busy day but the only one this week. Wednesday morning Nathaniel gets to come to work with be for bring your kids to work day. Thursday he gets to go to the doctor for his well appointment and David goes to the orthodontist this week, too. Saturday is Nathaniel’s official birthday party and then we have to race down to the Tech Museum because it’s also David’s Tech Challenge day! Sunday is another birthday party for Nathaniel. So it’s a lot of time with the boys celebrating, taking care of, and driving around. It’s a no-meeting week so I will also have all the evenings free this week which is an incredible rarity. I plan to take advantage of it by having some wonderful family time and some lovely quiet time which I hope I can fill with the journaling I intended to do last week. I am ok to let myself mourn a tiny bit more this week if I need but I’d also like to transition to the next phase and stop wallowing. I’d love to sleep a bit extra while I can. Mostly, I’d like to celebrate my (not so) little people!

Things I want to get Done: 

  • Wrap Nathaniel’s presents!
  • I really would like to put a dent in the Sydney trip plans.
  • Book my work hotel for Sydney. 
  • Order and get his cake, make his baggies, in general get ready for the party.
  • Help David with his journal. Get it ready.
  • Book the kids’ summer camps
  • Send newsletters

This month’s intention is:  Shine Quietly: It’s crucial to take time to reflect. Take this month to reflect on how things are going. Is there anything you need to adjust/change/drop or pick up. It’s ok to shift things. It’s also important to acknowledge what’s working. Take the time to shine some light inward and see what’s going on. I love this intention. I want to honor it. I am not sure what’s getting in the way of my journaling and why I am resisting it so much.

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: I don’t have any bold plans this week. Taking it easy this time.
  • Two: Open: Open to understanding how to grow. To doing things differently.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: Here’s to increasing my vegetable intake!

I am looking forward to: celebrating Nathaniel!

This week’s challenges: Tuesday and Saturday are a bit fuller than I’d like but I am not going to worry about it.

Top Goals:

  • Work: stepping back and picking up what’s fallen on the floor.
  • Personal: get out of the funk. enough is enough.
  • Family: celebrate both my boys.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: designing the life I want for myself.

This week, I will say yes to: enjoying my free evenings.

This week, I will say no to: wasting time.

I am worried that:  i won’t be able to figure a way forward, it will continue to be vague. nathaniel’s party won’t be good. david’s team will struggle. i will be unproductive all week. i won’t be able to let go. i won’t journal or eat well or give myself grace. I will continue to be where i’ve been.

This week, I want to remember:  that every day is a new one and i get to start over. i get to choose.

Living Intentionally 2017 – 16

Weekly Intention: This is a week of easing back into things. I am taking Monday off so it will be a bit shorter than usual and while I have some commitments, I might just do the bare minimum this week and spend my time resting and recovering. I think I’d like to spend this week thinking about all that I learned last week at Life Restoration Camp. I’d like to take a few more courses, retake some of the ones I did, do some journaling and a bunch of thinking. I’d like to do the work to listen to myself. See where I am, see what’s possible from here. I’d also like to rest a lot. The camp was amazing but it was long days and I didn’t sleep well at night. My knees are hurting a lot and I am feeling exhausted.

Things I want to get Done: 

  • I’d like to make sure I am done buying Nathaniel’s birthday presents.
  • Also all the little gift bags for his party.
  • I’d like to write a lot more of my shine cards (maybe a perfect match for the journaling)
  • Figure out a plan for our Sydney vacation
  • Book the kids’ summer camps
  • Deliver the books to the kids’ schools
  • Send newsletters
  • Check school payments

This month’s intention is:  Shine Quietly: It’s crucial to take time to reflect. Take this month to reflect on how things are going. Is there anything you need to adjust/change/drop or pick up. It’s ok to shift things. It’s also important to acknowledge what’s working. Take the time to shine some light inward and see what’s going on. Here’s to journaling to honor this intention.

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: Accepting what is, is bold. Here’s to going where the peace is.
  • Two: Open: Open to thinking in new ways, changing perspective.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: I plan to spend some quality soul nourishing time this week. 

I am looking forward to: having tomorrow off.

This week’s challenges: Tuesday will be a challenge. I hope it is not. But it likely will be.

Top Goals:

  • Work: catching up, stepping back, moving forward.
  • Personal: journal, take a new perspective.
  • Family: hug, smile, love, repeat.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: being here. listening. working at it.

This week, I will say yes to: slowing down. taking the time I need.

This week, I will say no to: focusing on the wrong things.

I am worried that:  bad news will continue. i won’t get anything done and i won’t journal and my knees will continue to hurt. i will forget the books again. it will be a week of blah.

This week, I want to remember:  that it’s all up to me.

Living Intentionally 2017 – 15

Weekly Intention: This week is Spring Break. We are going on a bit of a crazy adventure. I will be spending most of my week in Life Restoration Camp while the boys will be having fun in nature and other adventures without me. We will have some wonderful time together at the beginning and end of the week and hopefully for breakfast in the mornings. I am scared, excited, and of course worried that something will go wrong. But my intention is to be fully present, make the most most of everything. 

Things I want to get Done: 

  • There’s nothing I want to do this week except be present. 

This month’s intention is:  Shine Quietly: It’s crucial to take time to reflect. Take this month to reflect on how things are going. Is there anything you need to adjust/change/drop or pick up. It’s ok to shift things. It’s also important to acknowledge what’s working. Take the time to shine some light inward and see what’s going on. I am hoping Life Restoration and this month’s OLW will be great opportunities to shine inward.

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: Showing up is bold for me. This whole break will be bold.
  • Two: Open: Open to receiving all that i can from the camp and all the amazing people there.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: I think this whole week is also about nourishing my soul.

I am looking forward to: the camp of course. and the time with my boys. and the time away.

This week’s challenges: showing up to the unknown. making sure the rest of my family is ok while i’m gone.

Top Goals:

  • Work: none.
  • Personal: listen, learn, be present.
  • Family: pay attention whenever i can.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: making the very best of this incredible opportunity.

This week, I will say yes to: the camp, being there. making connections.

This week, I will say no to: feeling guilty.

I am worried that: i will let down my family. the camp will not be good in some way. bad news will continue. something will go wrong. i will have ruined spring break. the kids will hate it. on and on.

This week, I want to remember:  that i am so lucky. that life is beautiful.

Living Intentionally 2017 – 14

Weekly Intention: This week promises to be much quieter than last week with very little back and forth hopefully. Even though next week is vacation for me, I will be quite busy so my intention for this week is to rest. I would like to intentionally work hard tomorrow so I can be ready for my work challenge on Tuesday and then try to rest as much as possible the rest of the week. Take it as easy as I can.

Things I want to get Done: 

  • One is to read all the packets and prepare for committee.
  • Two is to figure out our summer trip a bit more and find a different hotel.
  • Three is to finish all my little todos that are taking space on my mind.
  • Four is to spend some time thinking about what it means to shine.
  • Five is to pack and prepare for our trip next week.
  • Six is to check in with myself. To listen more than I talk.

This month’s intention is:  Shine Quietly: It’s crucial to take time to reflect. Take this month to reflect on how things are going. Is there anything you need to adjust/change/drop or pick up. It’s ok to shift things. It’s also important to acknowledge what’s working. Take the time to shine some light inward and see what’s going on. I love this. perfect timing. It’s time to redefine my approach to things.

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: It will be bold if I can pull off resting as much as I’d like.
  • Two: Open: Open to receiving and listening on Tuesday.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: I would like to spend some time thinking about what needs healing.

I am looking forward to: Thursday. To the quieter part of my week.

This week’s challenges: tomorrow for reading all the packets and tuesday for the all day work meeting.

Top Goals:

  • Work: packets. doing a good job tuesday.
  • Personal: resting. eating well.
  • Family: doing some research for the work I want to do with them.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: reaching within this week. paying attention to my thoughts and feelings and assumptions and expectations.

This week, I will say yes to: me.

This week, I will say no to: doing more than needed. feeling pressure. feeling less than.

I am worried that: i will do a bad job with the packets. i won’t stop feeling exhausted. my results will be negative. i will fail the people i love. i won’t feel better. i will make bad choices.

This week, I want to remember:  that it’s one day at a time. everyday i get to make new choices.

Living Intentionally 2017 – 13

Weekly Intention: This week is mostly quiet with a challenging Thursday. It’s a combination of mundane tasks like taking David to the dentist and social events like Book Club and meeting a parent and a bunch of work. The intention I want for this week is to be slow. I always run run run and talk fast, move fast, do a lot, etc. There will definitely be some of that running around on Thursday just so I can make it to all my commitments but I still want to slow down as much as I can. I want to listen more than I talk. 

Things I want to get Done: I liked listing some of my big todos last week, so I decided to continue for a while.

  • One is to make sure I sleep even more than I did last week. I still feel really tired.
  • Two is to book the hotel for our summer and make a decision around whether we add another subtrip.
  • Three is to pay the kids’ schools for next year.
  • Four is to finish all the Q2 sheets for work. 
  • Five is to order all of what David needs for his upcoming trip.
  • Six is to keep smiling, keep looking for the good, and keep enjoying myself just the way I am.

This month’s intention is:  Rain or Shine: March is a tough month. You often feel like giving up in March. It feels too long. But it’s not. Keep going, You’re doing great. Remember that the trick is to just show up. Keep showing up. A lot of showing up this week, too. Book Club. Parents from both kids’ schools. To work for meetings. Dentists. Also showing up for my little boy who is sick and needs to stay home from school today.

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: This week’s bold move will be to show up to hiking on Saturday.
  • Two: Open: Open to meeting new people, taking on new challenges.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: I am going to go with exercise this week. I’ve totally stopped it and I would like to restart.

I am looking forward to: book club and book pick night. 

This week’s challenges: thursday starts at D’s school, then i go to N’s school, then I go to work, then I go back to N’s school, and finally I end up at the book store by my house. it will be a looong day.

Top Goals:

  • Work: q2 sheets. 
  • Personal: booking the rest of our vacation. getting D’s stuff. 
  • Family: actually starting a project with the boys.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: trying to be quieter this week. listen more closely.

This week, I will say yes to: taking new chances.

This week, I will say no to: listening to the negative voice inside me which gets triggered more than I’d like.

I am worried that: taxes will not be done on time. thursday will be a disaster. i will miss book club. my knees won’t stop hurting. i will drop the ball on something important. something bad will happen at work. nathaniel won’t get better.

This week, I want to remember:  that i need to focus on what matters most and not let people who don’t matter make it harder for me to be kinder to the people who do matter.

Living Intentionally 2017 – 12

Weekly Intention: This little paper was at David’s school’s high school campus. Isn’t that a reminder we all need?

This week is hectic. It will involve three trips to work, two to David’s school (both campuses), a client call and a lot of meetings as always. Monday and Wednesday evenings are filled with meetings till 10pm or later. Which is not ideal for me since it cuts into sleep time. I think there are a few things I’d like to do this week:

  • One is to make sure I sleep as much as possible.
  • Two is to get organized enough to feel like I know all that needs to get done and don’t feel like things are chaotic. 
  • Three is to follow through with whatever the doctor says to do and to make the few other appointments I will need to make for regular checkups that I know I am behind on.
  • Four is to either book or do all the steps to get ready to book our summer trip.
  • Five is to be done with the taxes, at least on our side.
  • Six is to keep smiling, keep looking for the good, and keep enjoying myself just the way I am.

This month’s intention is:  Rain or Shine: March is a tough month. You often feel like giving up in March. It feels too long. But it’s not. Keep going, You’re doing great. Remember that the trick is to just show up. Keep showing up. Lots of showing up this week. Connecting with a lot of different people from work. From Seattle, Sydney, Zurich and my mentees. Client calls. Volunteering at the kids’ school several times. Showing up at the benefit party for David’s school. Showing up at the doctor’s. And also trying to squeeze in a Book Club meeting in there. Let’s see how much of it all I can pull off.

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: A few planned bold moves at work this week. A few for the kids’ school and next year. 
  • Two: Open: Open to receiving this week. Opportunities, attention, kindness.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: Going to both the doctor and hair appointment. 

I am looking forward to: seeing a few friends tomorrow. fleshing out the details for the summer. being done with the taxes. being organized?! 🙂

This week’s challenges: Just a lot of back and forth this week. A very long Monday and Wednesday. Not a lot of rest on Friday. But I am ready to take it all on!

Top Goals:

  • Work: finalizing q2 goals. stepping back and up a bit.
  • Personal: sleeping. getting my todo list clarified.
  • Family: maybe a nice walk/hike with the kids this weekend?

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: continuing my experiment. i will show up as my best self everywhere i go. i will be positive and kind and pay attention. let’s see if that moves the needle.

This week, I will say yes to: getting a bit more rest even if it means missing meetings.

This week, I will say no to: negativity. even in my head.

I am worried that: i will not book summer trip. i will not finish our taxes. i will have a terrible time at the benefit. i will flop. i will be exhausted. my knees won’t stop hurting. i will drop the ball on something important.

This week, I want to remember:  all of this is transient. life passes really quickly and i want to be present for mine.

Living Intentionally 2017 – 11

Weekly Intention: Here we are. After Friday’s post, I’ve been sitting and waiting and thinking and wishing inspiration would strike me and I would find a magical path the “shining person” I wish to become. But, of course, there are no shortcuts in life. If you want something different, you have to show up and do the work to get there. 

The wonderful Zewa left a comment asking me: “If you had a client with your personality seeking coaching for your type of “problem”, what would you say, do, think, feel, hear and smell?” Thank you Zewa. I’ve been thinking about this since I read your comment. 

The first thing that came to my mind when I read the question was to ask “what would happen if you let all these thoughts go for a week?” What if, just for a week, I didn’t have to strive so hard? Or even strive at all? What if I loved every piece of myself and was just kind and generous to myself for a little while. What would be possible then? Or even for 24 hours? Could I go 24 hours without all this noise in my head? 

Honestly, I am not sure. I feel like this voice in my head has been there so long, I am not sure I know how to shut it up. Or even diminish its strength. But I love the idea of it.  I know that some people believe turning off the critical voice would make them lethargic. They fear it would kill all the motivation to be/do better. I am not one of those people. I believe that wanting to be/do better is an innate part of me. To be honest, even if it weren’t, so what if I didn’t want to do/be more? What if right here, right now was just good enough? Is that so terrible? 

Anyhow, coming back to the question. If I can’t shut down the voice, is there something else I can do? Can I flood my head with love? With overwhelming positive noise to live alongside the critical one? Maybe the trick is to not shut down the negative voices but to build up the positive voice? Just like turning to generosity to counteract scarcity, maybe the trick for criticism is not engaging with it but building a solid foundation of positivity. 

So here’s an experiment I will be running for the next week: I am going to flood my life with positivity. Specifically:

  • I am going to smile pretty much all the time (even if I am not feeling it.)
  • I am going to be kind to everyone, including myself.
  • I am going to make a list every day of something magical and wonderful about myself. Something that’s uniquely me.
  • When I catch myself thinking and saying negative things, I will counteract them with 2x positive ones. 
  • I will send kind+loving messages to 3 people in my life every day.
  • I will dance/sing loudly for 3 minutes to a song I love every morning.
  • When people say kind/nice things to me, I will say thank you and I will write them down.

This is my list. I know that if I do these things, there will be a meaningful change in my days. Let’s see how it feels. 

I was talking to Jake earlier this week about something that frustrated me about David’s school and something the parents did. And he reminded me about a story he’d read that week about how things are not happening to us. These people aren’t out to get me. Their intentions aren’t specific to me. I am choosing to interpret events in a particular way but really events are just happening out in the world and they don’t have anything to do with me. Difficult to explain this in abstract terms but I have a tendency to see myself on the outside of things. So each time something happens that perpetuates this story of how I am different, how I don’t belong, how people don’t want to invite me to places/things, I use it as an opportunity to feed the belief I already have about myself. Even though we’ve talked about such things before, it really resonated with me. I am who I show up in the world as. Everything that happens in my life goes through that filter. I interpret life. And I can choose to interpret it differently. This is such a big part of shining. Not only being the best version of me but also seeing the best versions of others. Reflecting that to them. So let’s see if some of these items above will help me interpret life differently. 

There’s one more thing I plan to do. I will make a list of the life I want for myself. The one based on my values. If everything were to work out exactly how I wish for it to be, what would the days of my life look like. I will write some of this down towards the end of the week when my meetings are quieter and I am back from Seattle.

This month’s intention is:  Rain or Shine: March is a tough month. You often feel like giving up in March. It feels too long. But it’s not. Keep going, You’re doing great. Remember that the trick is to just show up. Keep showing up. I am showing up to Seattle. I am going to show up at David’s school. I am going to show up to my life this week! And I will also show up for my little boy regardless of what news we find out.

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: I’d like to have honest conversations with my teams in Seattle about the ways in which I can contribute meaningfully. 
  • Two: Open: Open to possibility this week. Open to being positive. Being unafraid to be me. What would that even look like? 
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: Well working on this more on the psychological side this week.

I am looking forward to: my trip to Seattle. Seeing work friends in person and then being back home.

This week’s challenges: Three day trip to Seattle will be hectic and long. When I am back Thursday will also be long and tricky splitting my time between David’s school and work. But really the biggest part of this week is some important news we find out for Nathaniel, so if you’re the praying kind, please pray for my little one who has his heart set on being able to move to David’s school. He’s been counting down the days and wishing and hoping and I would love for his little heart to soar with good news.

Top Goals:

  • Work: spending quality time with each team. using it to get a jumpstart to Q2.
  • Personal: all of what i outlined above. 
  • Family: create a schedule for spending more time doing projects with the boys and with jake.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: well this week is all about self-love. nourishing my soul. being mindful of my thoughts and bold with the positivity.

This week, I will say yes to: being me, accepting compliments, all things that might make me have fun. 

This week, I will say no to: perpetuating negative beliefs.

I am worried that: oh man, of course i am worried i won’t go through with my plans above or that something will happen to make my trip not go as planned or that i will eat badly, do wrong things, say wrong things, blah blah. but this week i am going to choose to believe that all will be ok and put my focus on that instead.

This week, I want to remember:  that life is short. I am given these precious days and they are mine. I can squander them or I can savor them. I get to choose.  The day will come to an end either way. 

Living Intentionally 2017 – 10

Weekly Intention: This is actually a pretty ordinary week here. I haven’t had one of those in a while. I have a lot of meetings and long days but only one trip to work, one trip to D’s school and just one evening event. As close to “routine” as it gets around here lately. There are some must-do things I have this week, like perf but otherwise, I don’t have a huge number of obligations. I’d like to do two things this week. One is to get back into routine a bit with eating healthier food and exercising regularly and going outside to take walks, and also sleeping more. And the next is to take stock. As I was mentioning in the reflection yesterday, I feel like it’s time to do a bit of stepping back, assessing where things are, and figuring out what I would like to do next. Both at work and at home. What are some of the things I’d like to do more of at work, or differently, etc, to make sure I have more impact and I am doing what’s most important to do. I don’t want to do things for the sake of doing. At home, I’d like to think more about how I’m using my time. With the kids, with my husband, and alone. Am I doing what matters most to me? Given 1,000 free hours, what would I like to spend it on? Over the course of this year, I will have had more than 1,000 free hours and I want to make sure I did spend them honoring my values.

This month’s intention is:  Rain or Shine: March is a tough month. You often feel like giving up in March. It feels too long. But it’s not. Keep going, You’re doing great. Remember that the trick is to just show up. Keep showing up. I am showing up to a college event this week. I am traveling to Seattle for work at the end of the week. I am showing up.

Ways to Shine this week:

  • One: Bold: Assessing my life would be both mindful and bold. I’d really like to do that this week.
  • Two: Open: I want to be open to whatever comes this week. Just be mindful and present.
  • Three: Heal/Nourish: No caffeine past 2pm this week. Light dinners. Let’s see if it ends up meaning I don’t get 3am wakeups. 

I am looking forward to: being done with perf. 

This week’s challenges: writing perf. tuesday night possibly. but mostly making sure i take the time to take stock.

Top Goals:

  • Work: perf. step back.
  • Personal: get back to nourishment, exercise, journaling.
  • Family: assess and talk to each kid about what they would like to do with me.

I will focus on my core desires (bold, mindful, nourish, love) by: stepping back and assessing my year so far. my day to day. how can i introduce more boldness, mindfulness, nourishment and love into my minutes?

This week, I will say yes to: letting go.

This week, I will say no to: filling up time. i will cancel all unnecessary meetings. 

I am worried that: i won’t do the assessment. or i will and i will really be disappointed in myself/the results. i won’t exercise or eat well even though it’s more of a routine week. i will disappoint my family. i will continue not to reply to emails. i will not finish perf. i will not get enough rest.

This week, I want to remember:  that i get to show up and do my best each day and that’s all i can do. and that i get a new day each morning and i can start again. and that it will all be ok.